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As a way of thanking you we are giving you this free eBook.  It is about discoveries in new parenting also called conscious parenting and written about in our newly published book The Art of Conscious Parenting.  It is both new and conscious in that it is a way of raising awareness of yourself and your child through learning and applying the practice of being conscious in front of your child and in regard to your parenting.

The new parenting is not really new.  It is as old as human parenting itself with its inherent wisdom and knowing that have been the province of the intuitive feminine since the beginning of time. 

The irony of this title is made painfully clear. Again, the name of our book The Art of Conscious Parenting is ironic because the type of birthing and parenting it advocates is as old as humankind, and in some ways much older, tracing itself far, far back along the evolving mammalian line. The
notion that natural parenting is something new is true only for those who
have been brainwashed to believe that technologized childbirth is the only
safe, sane way of bringing a child into the world, and that early separation
of infants from their mothers makes the child an independent, stronger,
better adjusted adult. The new conscious parenting is new, yes—but only
to those of us who live a modern Western industrialized way of life.

Do you want a healthy mental, physical and emotionally developed and functioning child?

American women today are facing a tragic loss. With the dominance of technological birth practices in the United States today, the American
mother and child are being robbed of the simple and natural process of
birth and bonding. Nature’s organic program, built into the hard wiring of
humans for millennia, has been disrupted and almost lost during the past
eighty-five years.  A mother’s ability to bond with her offspring during and
after the process of birth is the most significant and essential characteristic
of all mammalian females—especially human females—on this planet.

This innate ability and the mother’s knowledge that accompanies it have been so exploited, distorted, and trivialized by commercial thinking and
conditioning that we no longer see our loss.  We can certainly point to the
results, however—even if we cannot always identify the cause:

• Men’s and women’s inability to connect in relationships at all levels
• Skyrocketing violence in our world
• The breakdown of consideration in the classroom
• Rising rates of juvenile crime
• Childhood despair, violence and suicide
• More children-at-risk than ever before

There are a number of studies that demonstrate the ways in which
inadequate parental nurturing impedes growth of brain cells and alters a
child’s natural biology. What is important to understand is the overall
relationship between successful or unsuccessful maternal care, and
between unsuccessful and successful child development.

We know, for example, that:

1. Nature and the very force of evolution have placed a developmental
template into every infant’s central nervous system that is activated by
quality maternal and paternal bonding. Bonding is an intuitive, extrasensory
kind of relationship between a mother and child. It is a felt-sense, a
knowing, not in language or the intellect.  It bypasses the intellectual mind. 
The mother senses the infant’s need to evacuate, for example, the same
way she senses her own need to evacuate.  A bonded mother ‘hears’ cues
from the child in her body.

This template is designed to expedite the systematic and successful
unfolding of an infant’s physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual faculties.

2. A large portion of parents today, most of whom were raised at a time
when the importance of bonding was unrecognized, raise their children in a
way that does not recognize the cues and cries of the baby, and hence
they unknowingly affect their child in inappropriate and harmful ways.  This
deprivation brings about hormonal, chemical, and physiological changes in
the child’s brain structure, and in his or her unfolding sense of self.

3. These changes, in turn, trigger psychological difficulties such as learning
disabilities, hyperactivity, ADD-like symptoms, coping problems, aggressive
tendencies, and lack of impulse control, poor learning skills, inability to
concentrate, and a catalogue of other misbehaviors.

4. The consequences of these misbehaviors can then become disastrous
to the proper physical and mental growth of the child, as well as to the
parents, to the family unit as a whole, and ultimately to society and the
world at large. Whether caused by parental neglect, stress, indifference,
inadequate knowledge, boredom, or any number of other factors, parents
who fail to bond with their infant in an intimate way at birth and the days,
weeks, and months after,  more or less guarantee, to some extent at any
rate, a stunted child—and thus a stunted adult. The saddest aspect of this
unbonded childhood, moreover, is that it usually occurs not as a result of
parental malice but largely because of ignorance, the pressures of modern
life, and “expert” misinformation.

Scientific evidence points clearly to the destruction of the very fabric of our
society if we do not restore birthing and bonding to the powers of the
feminine.

I already have two children, four and six years old.  Is there
any way I can give them bonding?

Yes, it is never too late to create a happy and bonded relationship with your
child.  There are many examples and suggestions in our book.

Our book The Art of Conscious Parenting helps to shed light on the path of
this return. It is possible to return to the kind of birth that begins the process
of creating and parenting human beings, who can care for others and the
world around them, use their creativity, and be strong in their
understanding throughout their lives.  And these principles can be applied
at any age, to any child even adolescents.

How can I as a new mother, begin to become a more
conscious parent?

In a society where special interests, especially profit-driven medical and
pharmaceutical special interests, exert such a profound influence over our
views, laws and social policies, it is difficult for progressive work in child
development to receive the attention, funding, and sympathy it so obviously
deserves.

Equally important for our purposes is the fact that these special interest
groups are dedicated to making sure that the current status quo is neither
challenged nor changed, and that our government, so often under the sway
of big money concerns, will do little in the future to change its educational
and medical standards for the rearing of children in our society.

Given this situation, it thus becomes the task of all of us, of you and me, of
each individual person, to take the bull by the horns and apply the
principles of the new parenting on our own.  The fact is that there is support
and guidance in these areas if you seek it. There are like-minded people,
doctors and nurses among them, who are sympathetic to the ideas of the
new conscious parenting, and who will help you take the first steps toward
natural child rearing, with all the empowering techniques that are part of it.

One of the Easiest Ways to Begin

Buy Our Book 

Not because we wrote it but because of the reception it has gotten by all of
the people who have read it.  Especially the experts:  Here is what Joseph
Chilton Pearce, the absolute Dean and Father of the natural parenting
movement had to say about our book:

“This book is far more than “just another book on parenting.” It is an
encyclopedia, a whole education in, and astonishing view of, the
magnificent story of human conception, birth, and development.”

This book will give you a level of knowledge and understanding as a parent
that will be the key to unlock all the wisdom of birth and parenting.

Go to our website and order a copy now. 

Here is what Dr. William Sears the co-author of the best selling “The Baby
Book” said about The Art of Conscious Parenting: -

“This book in addition to being a ‘How to’ book is a ‘Why to’ book.
The authors make the case for Natural Birth, Bonding and
Parenting. They present research and references to support their
case. Well written and an easy read.” 

Start to learn the basic truth about birth and parenting.  Then read the
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Questions about New Parenting

What is the effect on a young baby of the relationship between the
parents?

Not only are the imprints of parent’s interactions on the young baby
important, but even before birth its effects are crucial to the child’s
development and to whom he or she will become.  The new science of
Prenatal Psychology has changed the way scientists, psychologists and the
informed public look at children today.

Dr. Bruce Lipton, one of the cutting-edge biologists currently at work on the
question of nature (genetics) versus nurture (environment) has shown that,
contrary to popular scientific notions of genetic determinism, though genes
do control patterns that form a developing embryo, they have no innate
ability to set the rules or to spin into motion the wheels of human
development.

Instead, genes must be activated and directed by signals received from
the child’s external world. Therefore, the old medical model that our genetic
inheritance cannot be changed, and that we are little more than heredity’s
pawns, misses the mark.

On the contrary, Dr. Lipton maintains, the quality of impressions received in
utero sets and resets the genes that comprise the human germ cell. This
resetting ratchet up and down intelligence, emotions, and future talent
levels on the scale of possibility, continually writing and rewriting the
scenario of whom we will be when we are born.

Until the work of Dr. Lipton and his colleagues appeared, the notion that a
prenate’s perceptions influence its own genetic structure was unknown to
biological catechism. Now, backed by a vast body of laboratory research,
Lipton and his colleagues have challenged this dogma. Plus they have
added an extra dimension: During pregnancy and even before, Lipton
insists parents act as genetic engineers for their own developing child.

This act of creation depends largely on the parents’ behavior and
awareness, as well as on the raw perceptions of the unborn child.
Lipton writes:

The alternative perspective [to genetic determinism] expands upon the role
of parents in human development. Those endorsing nurture as life’s
“control” mechanism contend that parents have a fundamental impact on
the developmental expression of their offspring. 

In the nurture-controlled system, gene activity would be dynamically linked
to an ever-changing environment. Some environments enhance the
potential of the child, while other environments may induce dysfunction and
disease. In contrast to the fixed-fate mechanism envisioned by naturists,
nurture mechanisms offer an opportunity to shape an individual’s biological
expression by regulating or “controlling” their environment.

What does all this mean in practical terms?

First, a mother’s affection and care—or the lack thereof—for her child sets
the personality agenda for even an unborn infant.
Lipton tells us: -
What the fetus is experiencing is the mother’s environment. The fetus
responds to her emotions and feelings exactly as she does. Why? It uses
the nutrients it sucks from the mother’s blood. The blood has more than
nutrients in it.

The blood has all the coordinating, integrating, communicating molecules
that make the mother’s body function. So the fetus is getting the same
signals across the placenta. . . . The fetus can’t see what’s going on in the
world. So what does it do? It relies on what the mother experiences. The
fetus will adjust its physiology to what the mother sees. If she lives in fear,
is that going to be growth-promoting to the fetus or not? No. It’s going to
change the genetics and the physiology of that fetus, so when it’s born it’s
ready to live in fear.

Reviewer Barbara Findeisen of The Journal of the Association of Pre- and
Perinatal Psychology and Health writes:

Previously, perception of the environment, particularly the mother’s
perception, was never considered to be a factor in genetic expression.
However, as Dr. Lipton has shown, it is the mother’s perception of the
environment during prenatal development that creates the environment
in which the fetus must learn to adapt. The mother provides the
information, and biology responds to it; when the environment is toxic or
fearful, cells move away, there is contraction and less growth, and the
organism moves into defense and focuses on survival.  But when the
mother’s environment is loving and joyful, the organism is engaged in
growth and thrives. It is empowering for parents to know they can provide a
healthful environment for their child even before birth.

So how can we achieve this kind of ‘bonding’?

Only a natural birth allows bonding to take place from the beginning.  This
is the widest window of opportunity, because the child gets older, it is not
as easy and automatic as if it starts at birth.  It’s hard to agree on what
constitutes a natural birth, but for the purpose of this paper, bonding or
attachment, needs to proceed from an undisturbed birth, simply with a
minimum of interference.  
Bonding, the connection of mother and child is an instinctual function,
directed from or through the mid-brain, following the same form in all
societies.  It is like breathing and will manifest if allowed to do so.
Bonding is biological and biochemical.  Bonded persons connect on
intuitive levels, from the heart.  It is qualitatively different than a connection
from the intellect.  A bonded relationship has its center of operations in the
mid-brain, the seat of the emotional center.

But there are many, many ways to bond between mates, parents and
children and even friends.  The simplest form of bonding is the hug.
Despite jokes made in our culture about hugs scientific studies show
chemical and psychological changes take place when two people hug.
Over a century ago the famous German naturalist Konrad Lorenz dubbed
this process biological and social imprinting. Over the years, the German
biologist’s theories found their way into common psychological practice,
though his somewhat clinical term imprinting eventually morphed into the
more expressive term bonding, a word that has today passed into the
vernacular. We speak now of bonding with our teammates, with a favorite
beer mug, or with our dog. 

For psychologists, however, the term bonding is reserved exclusively for
kinship relationships—specifically for relationships between mates and
between parent and child. Any partnership or parental liaison whose central
core depends upon a long-term, unconditionally loving commitment is a
form of bonding. In its deepest manifestation it is a mysterious and
indefinable link between souls.

Bonding is a nonverbal form of psychological communication, an intuitive
rapport that operates outside or beyond ordinary rational, linear ways of
thinking and perceiving.

The best tool for bonding is touch.  Humans need a certain amount of touch
or as they are called by psychologists – strokes each day.  Not receiving
the quota, particularly infants and children is referred to as stroke-deficit. 
Bonding is activated by touch.  As a matter of fact, the most powerful first
touch is when the newborn crawls up the mother’s belly, by reflex, to the
left breast and latches on in skin-to-skin contact and suckles the mother’s
breast.  This automatically activates the bonded connection between
mother and child.

So now go ahead and touch the one you love, gently, tenderly and
often – and you will create a bond!

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The Art of Conscious Parenting

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